Words from a Father

Husband of One, Father of Four

Tag: time

494. Time Wasted

Ninety percent of media is a waste of time. Taking in more than a little bit each week is exactly that.

469. Better

Better to restrain for a time than regret for all time.

448. Philosophy Wasted

Do not bring philosophy to a broken heart or it will leak right through the cracks. Instead, bring love, a willingness to listen, and the time it takes to comfort.

415. Time

If you don’t have enough time, put your electronics away for a while.

413. Taking Time

You can take your time when it is truly yours, not when it involves others.

408. Essay: One Shot

I only have one shot at raising you kids, only one chance to parent you. This time right now is never replayed — we can’t record it, rewind it, download it, or check out the source code of this time with you, and then change it in either my memory or yours. One shot and then it’s done.

I will father you for a little while and then you’ll go through a long transition where you begin to take real ownership of your decisions, become your own person, forge your own identity. That is when our relationship will change . . . you will decide to continue to be fathered by me or not. A lot of that will depend on how I have done until that point. It will depend on how I have stewarded our relationship thus far.

This transition will bring a new aspect into the parent–child relationship: friendship. You will move from being “just the kid” to being so much more. It will be friendship based on history and trust and lots more things I don’t understand. It’ll be a brand new era. But the decision you will someday make starts with the hour-by-hour interactions we have now, with the way I make you feel when you’re around me and how you feel when we’re apart.

I only get one shot at it. So my philosophy is that, at any given point, I want you to feel love. Whether I’m feeding you, teaching you something new, disciplining you, playing hide and seek with you, dancing, singing, talking, or running around the house with you, I want you to feel love.

I only get one shot, so I’ll take my chances with love.

328. For Sale

You can buy gadgets, property, duty, services, resources, and other replaceable stuff.

You can’t buy peace, can’t buy love, can’t buy respect or credibility or goodness or integrity or time or joy or anything else that truly matters. If someone is purporting to sell these, it’s only in exchange for your soul.

322. Life’s Length

Life is simultaneously too long and too short to neglect to do what you love, to love what you do, and to be the person you’ve wanted to be.

It’s up to you, and now is the time.

314. Time and Effort

The younger generation always wants in a few years what has taken the older generation many decades to cultivate.

Microwaves only work for food; everything else takes the same amount of energy, but requires more time.

292. Spent Time

When you spend your time doing something, make sure it’s worth it.

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