Words from a Father

Husband of One, Father of Four

Tag: life

501. Hope Unequaled

Loss of hope is death, no matter how long after. Hope, in itself, is life to the dying and to the living. Hope has no equal in persuading the man, and hopelessness has no equal in his destruction. No passion or truth, no noble lie or self control, no plight for peace or responsibility for justice, nor rejection of oppression or embracing of obeisance are adequate and effective substitutes for hope.

Those hopeful are the strident calm. Those hopeful are the responsibly free. Those hopeful are the logically passionate. Those hopeful are truly alive. And if you are honest about those you admire, you will recognize that those who have hope owe it all to an eternal hope. Hope is either eternal or it is delusory.

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483. Keep Learning

Daughter, get as much education as you can. If anything ever happens to your husband, life will be up to you. Education is not your way out, it is your way forward.

Son, get as much education as you can. It is your job to provide the most security possible for your family. It is also your responsibility to encourage your wife to continue her education in case anything happens to you.

No excuses: Take care of her as well as you can while you are here; make sure she can take care of herself if you are gone.

This is modern-day chivalry. This is one way to honor your family.

482. Essay: Valuable Forgiveness

When someone hurts you, forgiveness is the only way forward. Not primarily for them, but for yourself.

The depth of the hurt correlates to the level of value given to the relationship and the amount of expectation the individuals have. The closer the relationship and higher the expectation, the deeper the hurt. This makes restoring the relationship that much more meaningful and necessary, and therefore difficult.

Any repentance and forgiveness that was quick, easy, or painless shows the shallow level of relationship and its low expectations. A repentance and forgiveness worthy of the relationship is costly and not easy at all, but it is worth it.

Don’t confuse the desire for a repaired relationship with the amount of time it takes to bring it about. The two are related, but not dependent. It may seem to happen quickly in some circumstances and slowly in others, without regard for the desire. I have a feeling that it takes longer than we initially realize; we can see it clearer when we look back upon the process. The important thing is to keep moving forward as much as it is up to you.

I’ve written a bit more about conceptual thoughts on forgiveness in this prior essay:

https://jfjudah.wordpress.com/2011/04/19/362-axiomatic-things/

471. Living

Lack of hunger is one of the first signs of death. This is true of physical health, business, life passion, education, personal disciplines, and many other categories.

460. An Eternal Anchor

Social justice without an eternal anchor in futile.

If justice is real, then eternity must exist.

If there is no eternity, then there is no true justice.

We may gain slightly better circumstances in our life, but gaining true justice in life is exceedingly rare, if it even occurs at all. Yet we all long for justice, hope for it, believe it is a real thing, and fight for it. So if we do not gain it in this life, then we must acknowledge the possibility of its fulfillment in the next. This also means that “the next life” will not be in this world, as some propose.

458. Anti-theist Rage

It is hypocritical for an anti-theist to rage about God commanding slaughter at a few defined instances in the Bible, yet they do not rage against the perpetual daily slaughter of innocent children by abortion.

457. Explain Pro-choice

A difficult moment for a pro-choice advocate comes when they try to explain to an eight year old exactly what it is they are supporting.

455. Consequential Loss

Some consequences are so delayed or unanticipated, by the time they take effect there is no way to correct your choice. One of the worst things in this situation is the amount of loss suffered before the consequences even begin.

454. Responsibility

The words responsibility and duty are noble and empowering.

448. Philosophy Wasted

Do not bring philosophy to a broken heart or it will leak right through the cracks. Instead, bring love, a willingness to listen, and the time it takes to comfort.

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